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You could look into getting a part-time job that would help fill your hours, maybe introduce you to new people, AND give you some extra money that you could use to buy a (maybe used) car to get you around at night.You could look for a job some place fun where you might meet like-minded people. What if you started an interest group that met at your home (or looked for one that met near yours)?And if you are so terrified of meeting people that it’s stopping you from leaving your house or forming friendships, you might consider seeing a therapist to address potential social anxiety.I agree with you that spending 4-5 nights with friends instead of your spouse especially when you’re newly married sounds like a lot, but for some couples whose needs are evenly matched that wouldn’t be an issue. If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at My husband and I have been married two years this coming November and it’s been great! You can also follow along on Facebook and Instagram.We live two hours from any of my friends or family, and, since I am not the most social butterfly, meeting new people slightly terrifies me.
So, it’s on both of you to compromise and to make an effort for each other — on him to spend more time with you and on you to back off a little and find other people and activities to fill some of your time.
And not only would your marriage improve, but your well-being and happiness would likely increase, too. what can you do to occupy yourself 1-2 nights a week when you don’t have friends and you don’t have a car and the buses stop running at 7 and everything you might want to do is too far to walk to? Even at night, you can stick a light on the bike and get a reflective jacket or vest to help keep you safe on the roads.
You say you work “almost full-time,” but, if you don’t have children and you don’t have friends and your husband works full-time and goes to school and has an active social life, what’s keeping you from working more?
Depending on what your interests are, consider dog-walking or working in a pet day care, or a book store, or a clothing boutique. Like, if you’re Christian, you could start a Bible study group on (or through your church if you have one).
(Or, hey, maybe a volunteer position is more up your alley; lots of organizations could use an extra pair of hands! Or, you could start a book club that meets at your place once a month or at a coffee shop near your home.